Waiting For A Change In The Weather

It’s supposed to snow again. Not lightly, but a lot. It’s late and it hasn’t started on schedule but that’s like a lot of things in life. So you wait. You want to be able to predict if your path will be crap or clear when you’re finally set to go.

Trees ad Snow

I’m waiting on a couple of things and I can feel the potential building. It’s in the pattern of events. Not a 100% guarantee mind you, could just as easily deflate, but like the smell of snow, change is in the air. i’m smelling beneficial change for me, but we’ll see. Ya’ just never know what your gonna’ get. Sleet, snow. rain, wintry mix… if you’re prepared at least snow can be fun and the rest not so bad. Definitely not getting rain, though. Plenty of that soon enough. Change is always coming.

Reflection – Need A Little

I read this post Black And Female: Destined To Be Single? and responded there. Typically I was left wondering why some folks are hell bent on throwing themselves into a minefield. Why, people, why!?!?

I think in this case the blogger is using her fiance to achieve the Holy Grail, a Relationship [cue the angelic chorus]. She doesn’t come across like she respects or appreciates him and even spells out she’s having a massive communication failure with him. Not saying he does or doesn’t deserve it, hell I don’t know the dude or how they are together, just saying she’s raising lots of big red flags yet still moving forward with him. I can’t believe they’re even engaged. Wow, just wow. 😦

Why this blog?

My original thought was to write an introduction piece after I cranked out three or four blogs of sufficient content and length as an example, then to explain in greater detail what I was trying to do. Like I would point my finger at the trail
behind me and exclaim, “See this is what I’m talkin’ ‘bout!” Upon reflection I think my early thoughts as captured on the About This Blog page already sum it well but I’d like to give more detail…

I’m a pretty creative person and visually oriented in how I think and understand the world. I am not necessarily arty, I have some talent but I don’t really have all the skills for most kinds of art. I DO have a better eye for photographic composition but that recent development is exceptional.

I am at times driven by a need to exercise this creativity. To express it outside of myself. Given that I have limited visual art abilities writing seems like the easy answer. But what to write about?

More than ten years ago if you’d asked me for the current status of my life I could probably give a concise answer. I’d probably leave out details and just focus on what was making me happy or not. Then along about my mid 30’s I developed the ability to kind of take a step back from myself and explain things that happened to me more as stories or at minimum as observed jokes. Maybe it was Seinfeld that led me here and I owe something to Larry David? 😉

Years fly by life stuff happens, if you’re lucky, and here I am: on the other side of a divorce that moved at a grindingly slow crawl thanks to the court system, not the participants, and as the father of an absolutely incredible kid.

All kids are incredible. Given that we know what the, usually, fun steps are to create one it still astounds me that a brand new person can be the end result. If I was an alien I’d be quite perplexed, “You do this and you get THIS?” 🙂

So, I’ve lived and have the resultant baggage to show for it. Baggage being the summation of experiences of a person who’s lived. Circular definition, see? I forget who said this, “It’s not that you have baggage to carry, it’s how well you carry it”, but it’s what I am trying to live by.

Marrying the need to write and having my own life as source material technically makes things easy. I say technically, because if done wrong one way you end up with tell-alls that offend people, if done another way you have boring stories. The challenge I’ve set forth for myself is to create interesting short stories based on current or recent events in my life with as little fiction as possible. I think I’m pretty settled on format at the moment which is a little rambling but fun to write as seen in this piece.

Here’s another fine way an experience can be told. 🙂

In addition to being fun I’m hoping I can learn through the course of this work to carry my baggage a bit better. Thus ends my third ever post.