Christmas and Other Holiday Ramblings

My kid only gets her stocking stuff from Santa and she helps with as much decoration as she can so it’s not like she doesn’t work for it. She knows what came from Mom, Dad, Mom & Dad, Granpa, Granma, Aunty, Santa, etc. Her face doesn’t light up any more or less when she tears open a package (like a lion tearing at the jugular of a zebra I might add) unless she has a whole lot of stuff then she starts to wear out at the end, as is typically the case. This is not a bad problem to have and I usually get a chuckle out of seeing her run down. Yes, there is such a thing as too much, unless it comes to love.

The whole CHRISTmas (as some folks like to remind) holiday is pretty surreal and fun and the way I celebrate it I wouldn’t mind calling it Yuletide or something else. Actually I’d prefer Yuletide if Christmas weren’t so ingrained. It’s not like The Church ever appropriated a local pagan holiday or hero in an effort to appease the recently proselytized heathen masses… or is it? And it’s not like it was merely a small family celebration until Hallmark kicked the door open at the turn of the 1900’s…

SantaSanta rocks, especially the version in Futurama where he’s a weapon toting Terminator and it’s called X-Mas and people stay indoors terrified of him. I could get behind a Santa like that… and feed him ammo.

We need more whimsical holidays here in The States. Or bank holidays. Not enough damn holidays in this country… I still want a national civil rights or suffrage day that celebrates all the people and actions it took to get us where we are today. I’m always surprised by the number of amendments required to underscore for the biased that citizens of the US of A are indeed free and have equal access to voting stations, public spaces, etc, etc. Check out the 13th, 15th, 19th and 24th amendments but don’t look at the 18th Anti-Partying amendment. We’re still reeling from that one well after it’s repeal.

There seems to be a lot of amnesia going around or a very dippy attitude that the way things are today has always been this way and that it’s all set in stone. I am also guilty of this at times, but rights come and rights go.

MLK Day, Jan 17th (observed by all 50 states for the first time in the year 2000!?!?), is what we get for civil rights and has not only an interesting observance history but also some fairly recent alternate names.

Note: I’m not sure how it’s supposed to logically encompass the Women’s Suffrage movement and although MLK Jr. was a beneficiary, I’m pretty sure he wasn’t around for the abolition movement.

I guess Utah was kind of on the right course with the name “Human Rights Day”, although they could’ve picked a different day entirely instead of looking like they weren’t trying to give the man his props… but still a lot closer to the mark than Arizona was… ahem.

…anyway, some crumbs for thought as we close out the year and start a new one. 🙂

I wish everyone Happy (respective) Holidays (whenever yours may occur) and a Happy (christian calendar) New Year. And every other kind of year. And please, if you can’t party safely at least do it in a way where you’re not gonna hurt someone else. That’s all anyone asks.



Bad Experiences and Wishful Thinking

I Think I am Going to Become a “Dog Lady”…

So I read this post this morning (I actually got there via a LinkedIn writers group I’m a member of) about a first telephone call. Let’s just say the dude was awash in testosterone and bad technique… I was, typically, sympathetic with the woman, yet also annoyed.

I mean, it sounds like one painfully horrendous conversation from the get go and the guy sounds absolutely creepy. I’m curious, why didn’t she just hang up the phone sooner!? Given that he’s a stranger I figure he moved beyond any allowance for courtesy or mutual respect when he pursued a conversation path that she said no to. I suspect if it should happen again she will. It’s hard to pull new techniques/strategies in the heat of battle. Shrug.

“… They are nothing more than adolescents in adult bodies who have no respect for others’ boundaries and aren’t smart enough to realize that that type of behavior will get them nothing more than a series of one night stands and likely something that they will never get rid of (nice), which will make it even more difficult for them to satisfy those out of control sexual urges” – That’s not me so I’m not offended but that is some pretty mean wishful thinking. I wouldn’t equate someone’s desire to have sex with different partners and not get into an LTR with an inability to practice safe sex. Even if he sounds like a rabid wolf like this guy.

As we keep seeing, some dudes just aren’t built for monogamous LTR and end up jamming themselves into relationships they should never have gotten into because they let the people around them set their expectations. Then they violate a trust or otherwise fail at something they had no business trying to do in the first place. That’s a bad choice. Ok, a really bad choice.

Then, “10 Reasons I Would Rather Have a Dog Than a Man “. Uh hu. I appreciate how easy it is to get unconditional love from a dog but it’s pretty slavish and I can’t imagine ever getting that from a person I consider an equal or otherwise has an adult capacity for intelligence.

Granted this writer’s just venting but I’m confused about how a gameless bum like that even got on the phone with her to begin with.